Lindy West: WOEman

The following is a review of the book SHRILL by Lindy West (a WOEman). She is a perfect example of someone who believes MOXIE WON’T. Someone who uses excuses and makes a living being a victim. She is a divider, not a unit-er.

Lindy West is a Seattle-based writer, editor, and performer whose work focuses on pop culture, social justice, humor, and body image. She’s currently a culture writer for GQ magazine and GQ.com and a weekly columnist at The Guardian, as well as the founder and editor of I Believe You | It’s Not Your Fault, an advice blog for teens. In 2015 she wrote and recorded a story for This American Life about confronting an Internet troll who impersonated her dead father. She also was listed as “Internet’s Most Fascinating of 2015” by Cosmopolitan.com, and helped launch the viral #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag in defense of women’s reproductive rights.

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Lindy West SHRILL

“Three aspects of the self betrayer’s conduct always go together: accusing others, excusing oneself, and displaying oneself as a victim.”

 

Oh Lindy Lindy Lindy.

This book is so…sad.

Lindy admits she was raised in a wealthy home with a progressive mother. I can somewhat identify, though my family didn’t talk politics, my mom was a product of the feminist movement.

However, like Lindy, my mom was torn between two worlds.

Wanting to be loved and hold on to traditions of romance – and yet wanting to be independent.

I also, in a way, am like Lindy in that I was highly influenced by pop culture. I thought “progress” meant sexual freedom and gratification and putting pleasure on the top of the “To Do” List.

As I grew older, I realized that not only is pleasure fleeting, it’s disabling and dis-empowering. It corrupts our spirit and soul – which then leads to what Lindy is experiencing: a very troubled angry person who lashes out and throws everyone under the bus (with the pretense that “it’s for their own good”).

Don’t get me wrong – what is the point of being an author if not being authentic. I 100% believe that it’s great to name names and shame people who have mistreated people.

HOWEVER, the theme in Lindy’s book is ANTI-SHAMING people! She feels she’s been bullied, but then turns around and does the exact thing she claims to be a victim of.

This book is not funny.

It’s not empowering.

LIndy claims to be self-confident; her writing speaks to something different: she has no confidence and so she clings to a movement that does nothing but confuse and divide its members.

Of note on being part of the Twitter panel that “seeks to provide a safe place from bullying.”

I read Shrill just as Azealia Banks went on a Twitter rampage against Sarah Palin; calling for Palin to be gang raped by black men and assorted other horrible tweets.

Banks was not muted, nor was she kicked off Twitter.

However, Twitter (thanks to the feminist “safety council” in which Lindy is a part of) has been responsible for shadow banning many prominent conservatives who have never said anything as hateful nor violent as Banks.

Chuck C Johnson, Robert Stacy McCain, Milo Y, etc.

The thought of “silencing” any speech no doubt has Ray Bradbury and George Orwell turning in their graves. The party of “progression” is now regressing to the era of book banning.

And if Lindy truly cared about bullying and shaming, well then, she’d stand for ALL women and not just select women.

By the end of the book, I found myself feeling sorry for Lindy. She is confused and being exploited by a group of people who seek power and gain by promoting victimization, by dividing us, and distracting us.

The book is hypocritical, lacks integrity and authenticity. It’s hard to believe she is a champion for women when she only comes to the defense of a certain few.

Freedom of speech is the most powerful weapon we, as a society have. Those that control speech control power. The more a society is secure, the more those who want to rule need to divide, decay, district, in order to ‘save.’ And the first thing they target is speech and status. Those that advocate collective rule are distrustful that man is capable of making his own choices.

I’m Dying (Again)

I am certain that I’m going to die soon.
I have to have surgery to remove my meniscus.
Now, listen, to any other person, surgery like this is not a big deal.
But I am not like any other person.
I am overly dramatic.
I also have a cardiac history which I was assured was “nothing” only to discover upon waking up after surgery to have my breasts enlarged (by far the most ridiculous thing I’ve done) that I went into bigeminy and trigemniy while under anesthesia. I also have a tendency to turn anemic, and I have low blood pressure.
So now, anytime I have to have anesthesia, I freak out. I still have my wisdom teeth and was advised to have them removed. But they aren’t causing problems, so I don’t want to take the chance of going under.
I was supposed to have a colonoscopy. Nope. It’s not going to happen. I’m never going to do it. Not unless I’m in so much pain that the fear of being in constant pain lessens the fear of dying on the table. Case in point: I had a complete hysterectomy. I took the chance of dying on the table rather than living with the debilitating symptoms.
Now, the interesting thing is: prior to my hysterectomy, I was sick for almost a year. My blood work correlated to the fact that something was causing my extreme fatigue. I couldn’t take a shower without getting out of breath. Could barely walk the dogs without wheezing. After testing, bumping up my iron, things improved. But in the meantime, the tests had revealed a lesion on my liver, a large diverticulum on my duodenum (I still really do not understand what that means but my GI guy said stop worrying about it, so finally, I did), and a cyst on my ovary that never went away and others that had bled and left scars.
I really became convinced I was dying. And with that in mind, I started to question my life choices. I’d read a series of books that had provided many brilliant insights to how my life might have been more…successful. Might have saved me from a whole hell of a lot of embarrassing choices and mistakes that had been chronic. Would have made me a better parent. A better person.
So I threw a book together as fast as I could and called it “Something that Will Change Your Life.” I took a pen name: Moxie Will (because listen, if people can self-identify as different RACES, surely, I can choose a different name).
I’ve always loved the name Moxie, and believed it fit my personality: quirky, colorful, strives to be courageous. And Will: because I truly believe self-determination is the key to happiness. We makes the human race unique is that we are born with the ability to control our own thoughts, our own attitude. But we’ve been conditioned to believe that we are not capable of making our own good choices. That we are damaged and hardwired to fail; we aren’t really responsible for our actions –we’ll be doomed no matter what we choose, so why not choose pleasure as often as possible!
But as I honestly reviewed my life and my choices, I realized my thoughts had been highly influenced by society: Madonna’s “Like A Virgin” video was released when I was 16 years old. And the articles I read in Teen magazines had less to do with respecting your body by NOT having sex and focused more on “the right of young women to choose to HAVE sex.”
But mostly, it was the books I’d read and movies I’d watched: everything had to do with love. Love was the thing that made the world go around. Finding a person to love you was finding someone who would provide you with a soft landing when the sea of life got too rough.
My parents had been a product of their upbringing and the generation that always sided with adults and placed little value on their kids feelings.
Being the curious and outspoken kid I was growing up; I was often in trouble for question authority (I know, can you believe it?). My parents almost always sided with the ‘grownups.’ – so I was eager to find someone to stick up for me, fight for me – someone like the love interest in almost all the books I read and the movies and TV shows I watched.
Obviously, I didn’t die. I ended up having a hysterectomy and came through with flying colors.
Only now that I was better, the immediacy of getting the lessons I’d learned (so that hopefully, others might make less mistakes and have more satisfaction and happiness in their lives) was not so immediate.
And then my fear of looking stupider than I usually do – which could possibly cause my husband to divorce me (which, would then take away my medical insurance!) – which could alienate my children (who are already embarrassed by ¾ of what I do and say), fear and self-preservation wormed it’s way into mindset.
Also, I was no longer the fun girl. I cared more about striving to be good; to be better, than to be out drinking, partying, shopping, being entertained. To me, learning WAS fun. (Oh my god, maybe I have brain cancer). I focused on history and little known books from the 1950’s and 60’s.
I had all these IDEAS. I have binders full of notes. Full of highlights. Full of writing. Yet, I was too afraid to put anything out there.
I don’t really fit anywhere.
I’m not religious, though I very much respect and admire those who practice.
I’m spiritual in a naturey sort of way.
I’m more Conservative in my values. I believe in tradition. Yet, I’m still, under it all, a rebel who questions the status quo. I’m a huge believer in personal freedom. It shouldn’t be about anyone controlling anyone – it should be about teaching people the value of character and courage and common sense, so that when they are faced with temptations of temporary escape and excessive pleasure; they are aware of the long term consequences to their spirit, their character, and ultimately, their happiness.
When I didn’t die from a mystery disease, when I didn’t die from surgery, a part of my rebel spirit did die.
When I had convinced myself I might be , probably was, dying, I felt free to be myself – to continue to rebel!
When I woke up after surgery (and it takes a-while to heal from a hysterectomy) I was very aware of my mortality.
When I was young and a rebel; it didn’t worry me too much; I still had plenty of time to find a partner and/or become so successful I wouldn’t have to worry about where I’d live and how I’d survive.
Then I started to notice the crows feet, my body started complaining, and I had not become wildly successful.
I did/do have a partner, however. He was/is getting a bit tired of my creativity AND his buying the groceries. I had my own money, but it was not very much. Okay, it’s actually so little that I have stopped even going to consignment shops, coloring my hair, and avoid any celebration that requires giving gifts (which, let’s be honest, the whole gift thing is WAY OUT OF HAND, even people who can easily afford giving gifts agree with me). He has been hoping his support will pay off. I think he’s starting to have more hope in winning the lottery.
The bad news is: I need to have surgery.
The good news is: I again, believe I’m going to die during the operation; it gives me an excuse to worry less about making a fool out of myself, and concentrate more on helping people realize what the difference is between a significant life and a superior life, and what long held beliefs and influences are holding them back from true happiness.
The bad news is: I have no plan of implementation. I am not totally focused. I absolutely know I’m going to embarrass myself (that’s good entertainment for you though, right!).
And if I DO die, well hell, hopefully my message will reach many more people much faster and I’ll save the world after all! Or at least the part that isn’t 100% committed to the Kardashians.

So stay tuned. Though I don’t have a concrete plan, I DO intend to blog every day until the surgery. To share things I’ve experienced. I plan on writing about Tinder. Sex. (Okay, I guess they are the same thing). All the Liberal Things I’ve Done. Hypocrite City. How Forgiveness is Mostly Bullshit. Why we should stop celebrating everything. And much more…

And if I don’t die; then at least I will be farther than I would have been by keeping everything bottled up until I was able to formulate the “perfect” plan. I will know that, once again, I’m facing life in my quirky, somewhat courageous way, and if my husband divorces me, at least I’ll have two good knees to continue dancing through life. In consignment store (but fabulous!) shoes, of course.

Something Wishful This Way Comes…

Something Wishful This Way Comes…

Would you live your life differently if you knew that one day your deepest desire would be fulfilled?

Hollywood A-List actress Moxie Bleu is wildly successful but lonely. On the eve of her latest movie premiere, Moxie discovers she’s been drugged and deceived. When a wizened old woman stops to help, Moxie finds herself confessing she feels like a fraud, undeserving of her fortune and fame. The woman offers a solution to Moxie’s unhappiness and with one wish, everything changes.

1958 homemaker Sadie Cooper is the envy of every woman in the cozy town of Honey Hollow, Pennsylvania. Married to charming Jack Cooper, the mother of two darling daughters, Sadie is well loved by family and friends. Lately, though, Sadie finds she is distracted and a bit resentful that she gave up a career in theater to get married and raise a family. One evening in July, Sadie’s sister, Kitty, talks her into visiting the old antique shop: May Contain Magic. The shop is rumored to be run by a family of sisters that have ties to Salem. Sadie soon discovers the meaning behind the name of the shop: May Contain Magic.

The next morning, Sadie and Moxie wake to find they have switched lives.

Sadie must navigate through the technological advances of the 21st century and Moxie’s professional career –which is in shambles.

And Moxie finds it difficult to live in a world not constantly connected by the internet or cell phone – and that being an actress is a piece of cake compared to being a mother and wife.

Diary of Movie Star Moxie Bleu is a story about wishes coming true, the magic of friendship and family, filled with humor and includes a recipe for cookies that will surely bring a little bit of magic into every readers’ life.

Available on BN.COM for Nook 2.99

Available on Amazon Kindle 2.99

Dr. Neftali Ortiz Reportedly Left Scene Of Accident

Dr. Neftali Ortiz – left scene of accident

On 2/4/2016 – Holly Madden, four months pregnant, was driving her truck when she was hit from behind.  She got out to get insurance information from the driver that hit her. He refused to talk to her. She called the police and took pictures of him, the damage to her car, and his car and license plate. He not only refused to give her any information, but according to Ms. Madden, he hit her truck again and left the scene.

She was able to find out who the plates on the car were registered to and they came back to  DR NEFTALI ORTIZ – who, according to the latest information, is a Psychiatrist who practices in Newtown at  Life Stages Counseling & Therapy: 660 Newtown Yardley Rd # 101 · (215) 860-7730

and there is also a Dr. Neftali Ortiz Dr. Neftali Ortiz,

listed at 7226 Castor Ave · (215) 742-7810

According to records, he graduated medical school from Univ Of Pr Sch Of Med, San Juan Pr 00936.

Ms. Madden shared the information on her facebook account  hoping that Dr. Ortiz will come forward and share his insurance information. So far, almost 4,000 people have shared her pictures and her posts.

I would hope that, if indeed, Dr. Ortiz is a practicing psychiatrist, he will be investigated by the proper authorities. If he can’t accept responsibility for his actions, what kind of treatment is he giving to patients?

From Holly Madden’s facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hollaay4/posts/10154686795889762

Holly Madden added 2 new photos.

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Contact Information To Help Officer Matt Hickey and K9 Ajax

UPDATE: 2/4/16: 4:15pm: UPDATE: 2/4/2016 – After much social media pressure, and what seems to be pressure from inside the City Council, Law Director Paul Bertram announced that Officer Hickey is allowed to buy K9 partner Ajax after all.

Thanks to everyone who helped make this a reality!

Here is the offical announcement: http://media.graytvinc.com/documents/Law+Director+Statement+-+Ajax.pdf

 

Short story about Officer Hickey and K9 Ajax below. But these are some resources to use to help show your support and to try and to prevent K9 Ajax from going to auction and keeping him where he belongs: with Officer Matt Hickey. Friends, you can still make a difference. We have 2 days until the city council meeting on Thursday night, February 11th. Here are some people to contact as well as the official Go Fund Me Page and Facebook Support Page. If you’re on Twitter, we’ve been using the hashtags #StandWithHickey and #K9Ajax

Official Go Fund Me: https://www.gofundme.com/yumeagsk

Facebook page to support Officer Hickey and K9 Ajax https://www.facebook.com/Support-Officer-M-Hickey-and-K-9-Ajax-1543191292663868/

Email/Call (both) to make your voice heard:

Chief of Police  Rodney Hupp, 

RodneyHupp@mariettaoh.net. 

Law Director: Paul Bertram III

 Paul G. Bertram, III 259 Butler Street Suite 200. Marietta, OH 45750 PHONE (740) 373-4171 

FAX (740) 376-2013

Mayor Joe Matthews, Mayor740-373-1387

JoeMatthews@mariettaoh.net

COUNCIL 

POSITION/NAME

E-MAIL ADDRESS

PHONE NUMBER

President of Council

Josh Schlicher   JoshSchlicher@mariettaoh.net   740-350-1337

1st Ward 

Roger Kalter     RogerKalter@mariettaoh.net      740-373-1784

2nd Ward

Mike McCauley MikeMcCauley@mariettaoh.net  740-374-5155

3rd Ward

Steve Thomas   SteveThomas@mariettaoh.net   740-516-4153

4th Ward

Tom Vukovic     TomVukovic@mariettaoh.net     740-373-2047

At Large

Cindy Oxender  CindyOxender@mariettaoh.net  740-373-7323


Kathy Downer   KathyDowner@mariettaoh.net   740-373-7422

At Large

Sarah Snow      SarahSnow@mariettaoh.net      740-373-1387


Nancy Johnson NancyJohnson@mariettaoh.net 740-374-5501

The Quick Facts:

Officer Matt Hickey was a K9 handler with Marietta Ohio police department. He retired after 30 years because of slow to heal injuries. He stopped working in the summer of 2015 and his K9 partner Ajax has not worked since then either.

Hickey retired in January of 2016 after the police chief Rodney Hupp assured Hickey he could keep K9 Ajax if he paid for him – but if he did not pay for K9 Ajax – Hupp would send another officer to confiscate the dog.

Hickey arrived with the money and Chief Hupp changed his mind and said K9 Ajax now cost more, saying it was against the law to allow Officer Hickey to keep his dog, however, the Chief told Hickey he could keep his dog if Hickey still kept working for free as a volunteer (auxiliary).

I wrote a detailed story on it here: Officer Matt Hickey Speaks Out 

Even with incredible pressure from animal lovers, police, police supporters, and good hearted people everywhere – the “leadership” of Marietta Ohio is still refusing to allow K9 Ajax to remain with Hickey and still plans on announcing the auction date for ‘sealed’ bids on Thursday night. The Mayor and the Chief are furious that the public is putting pressure on them – yet still refuse to do what is right and logical.

The story hit the media and there was a tremendous response but then the leadership of Marietta told the media the situation was resolved when it wasn’t – so the story lost it’s traction. And now on facebook the FALSE story that Officer Hickey accepted the offer to work for free is “trending” (which leads me to wonder if there is a way to pay to have stories “trend” at the top on Facebook the way you can pay Twitter to publicize a story).

Please help – you can make a difference (or at the very least say you tried!)!    Ajax

Police Chief Hupp Admits To Foul Play

UPDATE: 2/4/16: 4:15pm: UPDATE: 2/4/2016 – After much social media pressure, and what seems to be pressure from inside the City Council, Law Director Paul Bertram announced that Officer Hickey is allowed to buy K9 partner Ajax after all.

Thanks to everyone who helped make this a reality!

Here is the offical announcement: http://media.graytvinc.com/documents/Law+Director+Statement+-+Ajax.pdf

 

UPDATE – Officer Hickey DID NOT accept the condition that he work for free in order to keep Ajax. Yet again, the horrible officials led the public to believe that the situation was resolved.
Here is a link to the news story posted on 2/2/2016 at 6:15 PM Confirming That Hickey DID NOT ACCEPT and AJAX is STILL going to auction.

http://www.thenewscenter.tv/content/news/Marietta-Police-k-9-to-be-auctioned-upon-handlers-retirement-367031591.html

 

Officer Matt Hickey spent 30 years with the Marietta Ohio police department. He was a K9 handler and when his K9 partners retired, he was allowed to keep his previous dogs.

However, due to an injury that was slow to heal, Officer Hickey decided to finally retire. His K9 partner, Ajax, however is only 6 years old.

On January 29th, I ran across the news story that the city of Marietta had initially told Officer Hickey he could purchase Ajax for 1,000 (because he was considered equipment) (story here: http://www.10tv.com/content/stories/2016/01/29/marietta-ohio-retired-marietta-officers-k9-set-to-be-auctioned-despite-offering-to-pay-city.html)

There are always 2 sides to the story. And I was curious as to the “city” side, but it seemed quite odd that the city was putting up such resistance and that the Law Director had compared Ajax to a shovel. “The dog is property of the city of Marietta,” Marietta Law Director Paul Bertram III said. “Because it is personal property, it is treated like a shovel. That’s just the way it is.”

Today, I watched the livestream of the news conference held by Police Chief Rodney Hupp.

I was flabbergasted. The police Chief pretty much accused Officer Hickey of being a liar.

Chief Hupp even bragged about how he came up with a solution at the last minute to allow K9 Ajax to stay with Officer Hickey – by making Officer Hickey become a volunteer for the police department!

Then, after Hickey FINALLY spoke up for himself (he has remained silent since the story first came out, neither confirming nor denying the stories) he pointed out that the Chief had told Hickey he could purchase Ajax for 3,500.

The Chief admitted to having an officer ready to take Ajax away from Hickey if he didn’t pay 3,500 for Ajax (you can hear him admit this in the clip above).

Then Hickey apologized and said “I’m sorry, but I didn’t say anything bad about the city. I just said the truth.”

It seemed painfully obvious to me that Hickey is being leaned on to remain silent, and that Ajax is the bargaining tool buying his silence. Chief Hupp made reference a few times to Hickey being allowed first amendment rights and “I’m not his father BUT” and then goes on to say how Hickey by BEING SILENT when media and animal lovers spoke up for Hickey and appealed to the city of Marietta to allow Hickey to keep Ajax, the Chief accused Hickey of being dishonest.

A relative of Hickey’s (in the news conference) said NO ONE contacted them after Chief Hupp came up with the idea that Hickey could have the dog as long as he became an auxiliary (volunteer) cop.

But the Chief STARTED the press conference declaring how he is sworn to uphold the law and he follows the rules – but if then contradicts himself by

A) Telling Hickey (which the Chief admits to in the video clip, that is the Chief in the back saying “That is correct.”) he could have Ajax for 3,500 but then going back on his word.

B) Then suggesting “at the last minute” of a council meeting that Hickey could have the dog AS LONG AS HE STAYS ON THE POLICE FORCE as a VOLUNTEER.

Someone close to the Hickey family started a GoFundMe to try and raise enough money so when the dog ‘went to auction’ so that a police officer or k9 handler could bid on him, Hickey would hopefully have enough money so that he would WIN THE BID on his own dog.

The law director Paul Bertram, seems only versed in reciting codes, comparing dogs to shovels (and baseball bats and bulldozers) and too “intelligent” to do the common sense thing, and that is allow the dog to remain with his partner.

They (Hupp, the mayor, and the law director) also had negative things to say about social media interfering with their plan to auction off a dog for money and deny a 30 year officer of the force his right to keep Ajax – people on social media “Hide” behind fake names – they have nothing “better to do.”

Really, I’m not hiding behind my name: Laura Freed.

And thank GOD for social media, because just like sunshine, it shines the spotlight on shadiness.

I hope that not only does Officer Hickey get to keep Ajax, but that he uses the money raised by Go Fund me (link below) to move far far way from the cold-hearted city of Marietta.

The Chief tried to use the tactics of attacking and blaming the victim . He opened the news conference by stating that the story of K9 Ajax is a “Perceived Injustice.”

They used the tactic of painting themselves as victims: The police Chief tries to reason away the reason why he (the Chief) didn’t communicate to Hickey after the council meeting by using sympathy (the Chief’s dog has cancer and the Chief’s wife was having surgery for her sinus (does the Chief know about HIPPA ?). So, no one else could contact Officer Hickey? They were so worried about the “bad light” shining on Marietta that they couldn’t reach out and assure him in writing that he would be allowed to keep Ajax?

Then the mayor finally speaks at the end, admits he drove past Hickey’s house on Friday, and apologizes for not speaking to him (to get his side) because he had to hear what the law director and the council had to say (but not Hickey?). And then goes on to say he is worried about Marietta’s reputation.

Wow.

Link to the full news conference: http://www.thenewscenter.tv/content/news/Marietta-Police-k-9-to-be-auctioned-upon-handlers-retirement-367031591.html

Offical Go Fund Me: https://www.gofundme.com/yumeagsk

Facebook page to support Officer Hickey and K9 Ajax https://www.facebook.com/Support-Officer-M-Hickey-and-K-9-Ajax-1543191292663868/

Email/Call (both) to make your voice heard:

Chief of Police  Rodney Hupp, 

RodneyHupp@mariettaoh.net. 

Law Director: Paul Bertram III

 Paul G. Bertram, III 259 Butler Street Suite 200. Marietta, OH 45750 PHONE (740) 373-4171 

FAX (740) 376-2013

Mayor Joe Matthews, Mayor740-373-1387

JoeMatthews@mariettaoh.net

COUNCIL 

POSITION/NAME

E-MAIL ADDRESS

PHONE NUMBER

President of Council

Josh Schlicher   JoshSchlicher@mariettaoh.net   740-350-1337

1st Ward 

Roger Kalter     RogerKalter@mariettaoh.net      740-373-1784

2nd Ward

Mike McCauley MikeMcCauley@mariettaoh.net  740-374-5155

3rd Ward

Steve Thomas   SteveThomas@mariettaoh.net   740-516-4153

4th Ward

Tom Vukovic     TomVukovic@mariettaoh.net     740-373-2047

At Large

Cindy Oxender  CindyOxender@mariettaoh.net  740-373-7323

At Large

Kathy Downer   KathyDowner@mariettaoh.net   740-373-7422

At Large

Sarah Snow      SarahSnow@mariettaoh.net      740-373-1387

Clerk of Council

Nancy Johnson NancyJohnson@mariettaoh.net 740-374-5501

People Will Talk – The Liberal Attack on Faith

Watched this old movie called “People Will Talk” starring Cary Grant. There is a great clip of Grant’s character defending small town people who believe in “miracles.” The clip follows my observation on why it’s important not to marginalize people who live in small towns/communities and people of faith.

Movie: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0043915/